AN EARNEST APPEAL TO THE GENTLEMEN.

A HUMBLE REQUEST

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This post is not meant to hurt anybody’s feelings. If anybody is offended, then I sincerely apologize for the same. I am just pouring out my frustration after having a horrible experience on Facebook as well as Instagram. I wish to completely avoid using these platforms but being an author, I can’t afford to do so.

I am sure most of the men reading this blog or any other post of mine are thorough gentlemen and I appreciate them for their good quality. Unfortunately, the same can’t be said about some male models in Instagram or Facebook. These are some issues that I would like to make it clear:

  1. If a woman accepts your friendship request, please don’t misinterpret it to be love at first sight.
  2. Pease don’t ask for WhatsApp number or about her family status immediately.
  3. Facebook Or Instagram isn’t the place to fall in love or seek a companion. There are plenty of dating sites where you can flirt to your heart’s content.
  4. Just because you like a woman, it doesn’t mean she has to reciprocate your feelings. And throwing acid on her face is certainly not a solution to the problem. Accept rejection gracefully just as you reject a woman.
  5. A WOMAN IS NOT A SEX OBJECT. TREAT HER WITH RESPECT. BEFORE MAKING A PASS AT A WOMAN, PLEASE THINK WHETHER YOU WOULD ALLOW A STRANGER TO MAKE VULGAR COMMENTS OR ROMANTIC ADVANCES TOWARDS YOUR WIFE, SISTER OR DAUGHTER?
  6. FOR GOD’S SAKE, SEX ISN’T THE ULTIMATE OBJECTIVE OF YOUR LIFE. TRY TO FOCUS YOUR ATTENTION ON IMPROVING YOUR LIFE.
  7. I AM VERY SORRY TO NOTE THAT SOME CASANOVAS KEEP ON TRYING TO FLIRT WITH MARRIED WOMEN. I AM A PATHETIC VICTIM TO THIS HARASSMENT. FOR GOD’S SAKE, I AM NOT AND WILL NEVER BE A DATING MATERIAL.
  8. Friendship is a very special and beautiful relationship. Don’t soil the relationship by overstepping your limit.
  9. I have also noticed that if a woman speaks boldly on the topic of sex, she’s considered immoral and characterless while guys talk shamelessly about it. Why is there a double standard on gauging someone’s character?
  10. Women, too, should not give any false impression to mislead men into believing that they are in love with them. Before accepting any request for friendship, please set the boundary and if the guy or the girl crosses his or her limit, block him or her.

Now, I request my dear sisters and women who are active on social media to be careful while interacting with men. Just because of a few perverts, the integrity, reliability, trustworthiness, and the characters of real gentlemen are at stake. I learned my lessons the hard way.

I am not against men nor do I hate them all. Barring a few idiots, most have been pretty decent. Social media is no longer restricted to the usage by adults. Post pandemic, most of the children do have access to the internet. We should be careful with what we post. Children are innocent and their minds get easily corrupted after seeing the profanity, vulgarity, and obscenity.

We have to make it a safe place. I think I got carried away by an idiot sending me a porn photo. I am sorry but I won’t be accepting any more friendship request by men other than my family, merely to be on the safer side.

Thank you so much for taking your precious time to visit my website. Hope you enjoyed reading my blogs. 😊😊

22 thoughts on “AN EARNEST APPEAL TO THE GENTLEMEN.

  1. GREAT POST!!!
    If you put aa heart after a your comment some men will think “she wants me”. But NOOOOOO WE DON’T!! And just as you stated they should learn to take a rejection better. Harming a woman because she doesn’t like you back is unacceptable and they will pay for that! I am so gald you wrote this!

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  2. Thank you so much, dear Luisa. 😊😊😊β™₯️β™₯️β™₯️. After seeing that disgusting porn photo, I blocked the guy and sure will think twice before making new friends. Definitely will avoid men as far as possible. 😊😊β™₯️β™₯️

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  3. UGH…excellent advice Aparna, especially for the young who are on social media. It’s easy to get trapped by these individuals. I encountered something similar on another social media channel, but you gotta know how to shut them down, especially when personal questions rise. Great post! πŸ˜˜πŸ’–πŸ˜

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  4. I’m not very active on Facebook or Instagram, but twice I got friendship requests from two ladies who asked my WhatsApp number and then wanted to send gifts. I immediately unfriended and blocked them. It’s a type of fraud. Gents will be approached by so-called ladies and vice versa. Better to ignore.

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  5. Woooow! Great post! Dear Aparna, thank yu very much for your post, it is terrible thing.
    We have to take care a lot of us, because some people are not respecting others…
    Sorry about, you had a bad moment. Keep well, happy and drink coffee! Blessings!
    Take care my friend!

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  6. Thank you so much, dear Elvira. Yes, dear, you are right. We have to be safe. The best thing to do is ignore friendship requests from such men. Lots of love, hugs, coffees, cakes, chocolate and all the happiness. πŸ₯°πŸ₯°πŸ₯°β™₯️β™₯️β™₯οΈβ˜•β˜•β˜•β˜•β˜•πŸ«πŸ«πŸ«πŸ«πŸ«πŸ«πŸ«πŸ«πŸ°πŸ°πŸ°πŸ©πŸ©πŸ©πŸ©πŸ©πŸ©

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  7. Exactly dear Aparna. We must to be safe. Agree, ignore them ..
    Have a lovely day full of love, hugs, smiles, fun, coffee and cakes of chocolate, be happy! πŸ™πŸ₯°πŸŒΊπŸ₯°πŸŒΈπŸ§πŸ«–β˜•πŸ₯°πŸ’–πŸŒΊβ€οΈπŸŒΈπŸ’–πŸ§πŸ«–β˜•πŸ«πŸ°πŸ©πŸ«πŸ°πŸ©πŸ«πŸ°πŸ©

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  8. I think there are 2 factors in play here
    1. Parents don’t teach their sons how to talk to and respect women
    2. Growing up, most boys don’t have much exposure talking to and behaving with girls so by the time they grow up, they have no experience on how to talk to women

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  9. I’m getting better at detecting the daters/scammers on Instagram. The good looking doctors & military – BLOCK. The ones who post too many pictures of themselves or with puppies or children – BLOCK. The ones with numbers at the end of their Instagram names – BLOCK. Some I give a second chance to actually like some of my art. If I’m in a conversation and they ask me something that’s on my profile – BLOCK. Public displays of affection in the comments – BLOCK. I’m wearing out that BLOCK button, girlfriend.

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  10. Wow. Thank you so much for helping me out, dear Sandra. Henceforth, I will avoid these guys. β™₯️β™₯️β™₯️

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