MONDAY BLUES (23)

MONDAY BLUE BUT I AM RED.

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Good afternoon friends,

Hope you had a fantastic weekendπŸ•πŸ πŸŽ‰. I wish I had something more cheerful to share with you. I am angry, yes, very very angry. But instead of shouting at my family, I have decided to chill it out by writing a satirical essay.

How do you greet your loved ones when you wake up in the morning? Good morning, honey, dear and any friendly nickname, right? But when I get up, I am greeted with ‘What’s for breakfast, lunch, and dinner? ” I am tempted to answer, ” Do I look like a restaurant or a hotel that comes with a menu card to you? ” This habit has been passed on from the grandfather ( my father-in-law) to his son ( my husband) to his granddaughter ( my 12 year old kid who’s my grandma in reality).

Now I take great pride in announcing that I have got married into a family whose favorite hobbies are non stop eating and non stop chatting. According to the kind gentlemen in my family, the best daily exercise is the one which is done by bringing your hand very close to your mouth, putting anything edible into it for eating, making your teeth, incisors, molars, or canine, whatever is left in your mouth, to grind the poor thing into a powder that get mixed with your saliva, enters your stomach through the food pipe, and make the stomach do the needful yoga asanas, with the help of the digestive juices.

I don’t mind cooking. It’s my duty. But to keep on demanding things to eat, every couple of hours crosses all the limits. Then, instead of appreciating the hard work, these lovely people quickly find out faults, ” It’s too sour, ” ” It’s too salty, ” ” It’s too bland.” That’s why I am so furious. I wish we were like cows, eat food then chew cuds. I am thinking of coming up with new recipes like grass salad, spinach juice, or the very bitter neem leaves soup. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚. Probably, no one will ask for the next round of meals. It really hurts when you are treated like an unpaid slave.

” Swaraaj ( self-governance) is my birthright and I shall have it, ” said Freedom Fighter Bal Gangadhar Lokmaanya Tilak. Now I have coined a new statement, ” Eating is my birthright and I shall keep chewing.”

Sometimes, I wish humans too came with stickers like ” Beware of this man, he is a womanizer, ” ” Beware of this woman, she’s a great gossip,” “Beware of this man, he asks too many questions, ” and ” Beware of this woman, she talks too much.” I guess being abused after marriage for 14 years has brought the frustration in me. Not every family is like this. But I and my brother have went through hell in our respective disastrous marriages. So I feel that marriages are not always made in heaven, some are made in hell too, but divorces are finalized on the earth. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

Women, especially housewives, are humans too. They deserve to take a break. I wish people could realize that just because a woman stays at home to take care of her family, she should not slog the whole day in the kitchen, deciding on what to cook for the fussy eaters in her family. A great family life is all about wholehearted support, encouragement, and appreciating each other, helping each other in whatever ways we can.

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35 thoughts on “MONDAY BLUES (23)

  1. You are very brave Aprana jii.. it takes courage to express by writing instead of shouting on them..I can relate with this very well as my mom has gone through this type of toxic behaviour from my father and his whole family..And later on I gave her support in healing her emotional wounds and make her free from it..at least she feels nice by having my mental support..and I am so happy for her..I and my husband both helped and changed the toxic environment ..

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  2. Thank you so much, dear Harina. It’s really sweet of you and your husband. I am so sorry with what your mother has gone through. I am so happy that she got a wonderful daughter and a very admirable son-in-law.

    Writing has helped me a lot. It’s a therapy. I don’t want my daughter to be deprived of her confidence because of her father berating both of us. Giving him 6 months’ time Or else Tata bye bye to an abusive marriage.
    Lots of love, Harina dear. β™₯️β™₯️β™₯️😊😊😊

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  3. Absolutely true.. writing is a therapy..you are a wonderful mother.. I am definitely sure that your daughter is safe in your hands..you did the right decision about leaving abusive marriage.. we are with you always in whatever decision you take..πŸ€—πŸ€—

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  4. Aparna you have scripted almost every home maker’s point of views amazingly. Still this kind of families are existing in this era treating dils as their slaves. Disgusting. Any way thanks for sharing your emotions which almost many of us underwent.

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  5. I like the way you vent your feelings by writing a satire. I appreciate that despite all household chores, you find time for blogging. All the best, Aparna ji for your endeavours.

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  6. So true. Cooking is not a problem. It’s the attitude towards the women, particularly, housewives.

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  7. Aparna, it takes a braveheart to stand against mental torture. It is easy to describe physical abuse as it has tangible effects. Mental abuse is imperceptible and causes irreparable damage. If you are financially independent you should not think twice if you are not happy in your domestic situation. All the best.

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  8. I hope that after the outburst you have calmed down a bit. Sometimes wives are not seen as human beings but cooks, cleaners, washerwomen, and so on.
    Maybe that’s also why I’m divorced
    A big hug πŸ€—πŸ’—πŸ€—

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  9. Thank you so much, dear. β™₯️β™₯️😊😊😊. I am just waiting for my daughter to finish this academic session.

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  10. Thank you so much, dear Luisa. I am feeling good now. 😊😊😊β™₯️β™₯️β™₯️β™₯️. I got married in a typical Orthodox family where men assume they are God because they are male. I am fed up of being treated like an unpaid slave.

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  11. Thank you so much❀❀❀😊😊. After reading your sweet words of moral support and encouragement, I am feeling greatly relieved.

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  12. Thank you so much, dear Dawn. Wonderful friends like you have given me so much motivation and courage. πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’• β™₯️β™₯️β™₯️😊😊😊😊🌹🌹🌹

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  13. I feel your words Aparna. Hope one day things will change and you will have full support from your family. Until then jor laga ke πŸ˜πŸ˜‚.

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  14. Wow! Wow! Wow! Dear Aparna, let me tell you… I admired you! You are a super woman!
    It is not easy to charge home, with kids and a husband… OMG! Respect to you a lot!
    Your sense of humor is amazing! Just remeber you are a wonderful woman, person, mother, wife, chef, writer, teacher, etc, etc… Have a relaxing time, a day full of love, hugs, coffee, cakes, and all the things makes you happy!

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  15. Yes, the courage to encourage, admire, love, consider, and support to the woman of the house comes from within, and for that a person needs to be well wisdomful.

    A lot of people fails here.

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  16. Thank you so much, dear Elvira. You always know how to make me happy dear. It’s really wonderful to have true, appreciating friends like you than an ungrateful family except my kid. Lots of love, hugs, coffees, cakes and all the happiness β™₯️β™₯️β™₯οΈπŸŽ‚πŸ©πŸ©πŸ©πŸ©πŸ©πŸ°πŸ°πŸ°πŸ°πŸ°β˜•β˜•β˜•β˜•β˜•πŸ«πŸ«πŸ«πŸ«πŸ«πŸ«πŸ¦πŸ¦πŸ¦πŸ¦πŸ¦

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  17. Oh my goodness Aparna, I simply love the way you turned this madness “Beware of…” into something lighthearted. πŸ˜‚ Sometimes you need to laugh to (1) Survive or (2) help the other person to survive so you won’t kill them on the spot with their whining and constant requests. No girlfriend, you are no waitress, maid, or doormat. I wish I could whisk you away, like right here with me, so you can escape the madness and get a few weeks of sheer relaxation. Hmmmm… is there somewhere you can go where you can go on a retreat, like a monastery, where you can simply relax and leave the laundry, cooking and cleaning to everyone else? Until your great escape, I am sending you lots of love, hugs, and smooches! πŸ₯°πŸ’–πŸ€—πŸ§πŸ€©πŸ₯‚πŸ˜˜πŸŒΊπŸ˜ŠπŸ¦‹πŸ₯³

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  18. You are welcome, dear Aparna.
    That makes me smile, thank’s!
    You just be you and happy! Keep well.
    πŸ™πŸ’–πŸŒΈβ€οΈπŸŒΈπŸ’–πŸ°πŸ«πŸ©πŸ«πŸ°πŸ©πŸ«πŸ°πŸ©πŸ§πŸ«–β˜•πŸ§πŸ«–β˜•πŸ§πŸ«–β˜•πŸ™
    Have a lovely day full of love, hugs, smiles, coffee, cakes, fun and happiness too!

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  19. Thank you so much, dear Kym. I am planning a great shocker for the monster of my hubby dearest. Yes! I would love to travel the globe and settle either in the US or Europe, to be out of reach of this person.

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  20. Lots of love, hugs, smiles, coffees, cakes, fun, joy and all the happiness of the world. πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’β™₯️β™₯️β™₯️β™₯️β™₯οΈπŸŒΉπŸŒΉπŸŒΉπŸŒΉπŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ŠπŸ§πŸ§πŸ§πŸ§β˜•β˜•β˜•β˜•πŸŽ‚πŸŽ‚πŸŽ‚πŸŽ‚πŸ°πŸ°πŸ°πŸ°πŸ«πŸ«πŸ«πŸ«πŸ©πŸ©πŸ©πŸ©πŸ©πŸ¦πŸ¦πŸ¦πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ₯°

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  21. Have a lovely day full of blessings, love, smiles, hugs, coffee, cakes and happiness! πŸ™β€οΈπŸŒΈπŸ’–πŸŒΈπŸ’–πŸŒΈπŸ’–πŸ§πŸ«πŸ₯§πŸ°πŸ«–β˜•πŸ§πŸ«πŸ°πŸ₯§πŸ«–β˜•πŸ§πŸ«πŸ°πŸ₯§πŸ«–β˜•πŸ§πŸ«πŸ°πŸ₯§πŸ«–β˜•πŸ₯°πŸ˜˜πŸ™

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  22. Girl, I will be praying for you. πŸ™πŸΌ It makes no sense to be treated like a piece of trash or a slave. Of course, this is happening everywhere. But with you standing up to an abuser, takes your power out of his hands. If they feel that they can intimidate and dehumanize you, they will continue to do so. Stay focused, say nothing and do what you must, even where you are. Your family is there and until you can figure out what your next move is, continue to stand up for yourself my friend. I admire your bravery Aparna! Don’t give up! Hugs and smooches! πŸ˜ŠπŸ’–πŸ˜˜πŸ¦‹πŸ€—

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  23. Women are to be treated with so much respect. We are not slaves to our husbands. We are their lovers and bestfriends.

    You are so brave, my dear Aparna. I’ll continue praying for you. πŸ™πŸ»

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  24. Thank you so much, dear AdelheidπŸ₯°πŸ₯°β™₯️β™₯️β™₯️. This means so much to me.

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