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Good morning friends,

It’s Monday again and the beginning of a new week. Today I am going to share my thoughts on assumption. I fail to understand why people assume that they know everything in this world. There’s nothing wrong in accepting ignorance of certain facts because knowledge is as vast and deep as an ocean. Every day there’s something new to learn.

This incident happened around 15 years ago. I had a day off from my work and so I thought of visiting an educational fair. The Universities from all over the world had set up stalls in a Grand Hotel in Chennai. I approached one of the stalls that welcomed students for an American University. The guy behind the counter was in his thirties. I was terribly shocked at his canvassing. First of all, he called me aunty ( Because I was obese) and the nerve of the idiot to ask whether I wanted to send my son or daughter abroad. What the hell? I wasn’t even married at that time. The question of children didn’t arise. I was tempted to reply “Give me a brochure for my great-great- grand daughter, Uncle.” I left immediately without a second look.

Just imagine my shock where I was addressed aunty six times and except for one stall, where the man behind the counter thought I was planning to pursue my higher studies, all the counselors thought I was sending my son Or daughter abroad. I was only 26 at the time. I stopped going out after this episode which made me angry.

While it’s good to consider yourself young, but it’s not advisable to assume that the other person is your aunt or uncle simply because of their obesity. Assumption is the worst thing that could ever happen to anyone. It’s only good for mathematics where we assume different values for X, Y, and Z.

Now I just laugh it off with a simple thought, ” Go ahead, call me an Aunty. And I will make sure everyone calls you Uncle Or Elder Brother.” Or perhaps I can buy them a new dictionary that teaches them to use Sir, Ma’am, or Ms.

I am 40 now and gracefully accept being called aunty. I take a deep breath and wonder if humans are really as intelligent as they think they are. We assume that we have functional brains, which we fail to use, or leave behind in our beds while uttering trash out of our mouths. It’s something to think about. You must be thinking why am I so bitter this morning.

Believe me, I laugh at myself as I think how quickly I lost my temper over nothing. I was very sensitive at that time. But the passage of time has taught me to enjoy life as it comes and never to hold grudge against anyone who offended me. I just want to convey a message. Never judge people on the basis of their physical appearance. It’s wrong to assume their characteristics simply because they are obese and look older than their actual age. It’s the content inside that matters. An apple may look glossy and fresh but might be rotten within and infested with worms.

Avoid assumption as far as possible except solving maths problems while teaching the kids. πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€

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13 thoughts on “MONDAY BLUES (9)

  1. Thank you so much dear, Elvira. You just made my day with your kind words. β™₯️β™₯️β™₯️β™₯️. I appreciate it dear friend. Have a fantastic week.


  2. You are welcome, dear Aparna.
    Aww! Thank you very much. It’s a pleasure. β€οΈβ€οΈβ€οΈβ€οΈπŸ™
    Have a wonderful day dear friend.
    See you later, time to sleep for me.


  3. Wow I’m happy to know that your perspective towards others “remarks” has evolved over the years. That’s a laudable progress!

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  4. Oh Aparna, I am so sorry you had to experience this but I can truly connect to your message of assumptions. When I was growing up there was this saying that said, “Never assume, because you make an “ass” out of “u” and “me.” Don’t know who came up with that one! LOL 😁

    But I love what you said, “We assume that we have functional brains, which we fail to use, or leave behind in our beds while uttering trash out of our mouths.” Girl, this is nothing but sheer ignorance and it is offensive on so many levels. But I love your comeback, “Uncle” and “Elder Brother.” I love it!!! πŸ€£πŸ˜œπŸ˜‚ Now that is a smooth metaphor to throw back at them with a smile! πŸ€©πŸ’–πŸ₯° Have a spectacular day my friend. πŸ™πŸΌ

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  5. Wow. I loved your response. πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ŠπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘Œ. Well said dear Kym. Thank you so much for your kind words.

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  6. You are so welcome Aparna. I appreciate your bravery in sharing such a traumatic experience that could have turned into a situation far more painful. I admire your response my friend. It is obvious you were bigger than the other “Uncles” and “Elder Brothers!” LOL πŸ˜‚πŸ˜œπŸ€£ Enjoy the rest of your week!!!

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